Have you come across a long argument just because people thought arguments were meant for winning?
Have you ever created a powerpoint presentation painting a good picture, when you yourself were not convinced?
Have you come across a situation when the genuinely better solution did not make it?
Have you heard an external consultant to your company recommending what you already thought was the way to go?
Actually this post is not about finding a solution to these challenges or calling them right or wrong.
For now I want to point to a behind the door thing - the “mindset”, which I have been currently experimenting with myself and found to be immensely helpful. While you give it a thought, let me try to list down the “desired” characteristics of this “mindset” when it comes to “opening up”. Do drop a comment, if you think of any additional characteristics.
- It is amazingly refreshing and eventually rewarding to tolerate people and ideas “worse than yours”, “as good as yours” and “better than yours”.
- It is tough but turns out equally good later, to get contradicted and yet not mind too much!
- It hurts less and keeps the door open when you develop an ability to trash the genuine trash without creating an opinion of any sort.
- It pays-off to believe that execution, and not the origin or the idea itself, is the crux of the matter.
- It is fun and sometimes even more productive to be less formal in all your dealings.
- It changes quite a few of your beliefs when you develop an ability to genuinely look out for value inputs from sources beyond “yourself” and beyond “your known sources”
- It is worthwhile to revel in personal satisfaction, while building upon each others ideas.
- It surprises you, when you realize that sharing your ideas paves way for even better ideas from you, the next time around.